To the adoptive or foster mother on Mother’s Day,
Loving a child that was born to another mom daily challenges us to hold differing emotions. I’m convinced no other experience lets a person feel what “bittersweet” really means. We feel the joys of each sweet smile and laugh, yet know the hurt that also comes with the brokenness of adoption. Mother’s Day is no different. However, just because something comes from brokenness doesn’t mean that it isn’t worth noting the powerful way that you have the privilege of being in relationship with your child. Caring for boo boos, sitting outside the room of a crying teenager, watching them open the door for an elderly woman at the store, making their sister laugh, and just those genuine moments that no one other than a “real” mom can have the privilege of enjoying. You are a real mom. So is their biological mom. Mother’s day is for all.
I have some ideas about how to make mother’s day special (or at the very least lessen the stress) as an adoptive or foster mom.
Wholehearted Herd Counseling is also here for you and your family. I get this on a personal and professional level and I am here. You may ask how can working with a horse in therapy help me with parenting my child? The Natural Lifemanship model of therapy we utilize helps you to work on your own attachment and ways of being with the horse in real time. This is also helpful for your children to learn relationship skills and feel what works and doesn’t in their own bodies. The focus on neurobiology and integrating your brain also will expand your ability to hold the bittersweet emotions and not be triggered. Don’t hesitate to send me email for more information or to try it out for yourself. email@example.com
Wholehearted Herd Counseling, LLC provides trauma therapy for children and teens and family therapy focused on attachment for adoptive and foster families with the help of horses. Wholehearted Herd Counseling, LLC is an equine-assisted therapy service in the central Wisconsin, Wausau, and Antigo areas.
5/10/2020 06:10:14 am
Very true, all of it! In loving your little, I understand my ability to love in a much deeper level. I love the "birth" mom and pray for her. If I had someone so sweet in my life, it would be unimaginable not to be with her. I understand love has no wall, boundaries, even limits....love the one you have for as long as you have them. Letting go and reunification, should that happen, I know will be hard, but love wasn't wasted, it was invested!
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